How to help your child develop self esteem!

Part I

How to Help Your Child Develop Self Esteem Part I

How We Will Help Your Child Succeed in our Program (and in Life) By Developing His/Her Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a major key to success in life, and a MAJOR focus in our program!
The development of a positive self-concept or healthy self-esteem is extremely important to the happiness and success of children and teenagers.

Over the years, we have helped hundreds of parents and families, just like you (some who’ve had SUBSTANTIAL challenges) build their child’s self-esteem and sense of accomplishment.

In fact, we’ve had so much experience and success in dealing with self-esteem issues, even local school guidance counselors, principals and family practitioners regularly refer students to us for special attention in this area.

“Since starting at the Pace Institute of Karate, our son Alex has developed more confidence in himself and he had much more self-esteem. Before starting in karate he was very quiet and shy.
The Super Star program is wonderful. It helps keep Alex on track at home and in school. He’s developed an all around cooperative, positive attitude.
We are very proud of Alex and the progress he has made since being at Pace Institute.”
Mr. & Mrs. Fred Block

Why hundreds of other loving parents have chosen our program to help their son or daughter build their Self-Esteem!

At the Pace Institute of Karate we’re SERIOUS about making a real, positive impact on our students! Our instructors participate in rigorous ongoing continuing education programs, both locally, and in conjunction with the National Association of Professional Martial Artists, including in depth training on the subject of character development and Self-Esteem.

Rest assured your son or daughter is in the BEST hands at our school.

Our proven successful system for building Self-Esteem, is based on positive reinforcement, positive mentoring and empathy. Your son or daughter will never be singled out in a negative way or made to feel embarrassed…..only expertly coached, and encouraged in a positive, impact-full manner, to overcome any obstacles!

Here are some ideas, and a glimpse into our process.
Self Esteem and Children
Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, and our behavior clearly reflects those feelings. For example, a child or teen with high self-esteem will be able to:
· act independently
· assume responsibility
· take pride in his accomplishments
· tolerate frustration
· attempt new tasks and challenges
· handle positive and negative emotions
· offer assistance to others
On the other hand, a child with low self-esteem will:

· avoid trying new things
· feel unloved and unwanted
· blame others for his own shortcomings
· feel, or pretend to feel, emotionally indifferent
· be unable to tolerate a normal level of frustration
· put down his own talents and abilities
· be easily influenced
Parents, mentors and friends promote a child’s self-esteem. It isn’t a particularly difficult thing to do. If fact, most parents do it without even realizing that their words and actions have great impact on how their child or teenager feels about himself. Here are some suggestions to keep in mind, and outline some of the strategies we utilize in our classes!
When you feel good about your child, mention it to him.

Parents are often quick to express negative feelings to children but somehow don’t get around to describing positive feelings. A child doesn’t know when you are feeling good about him and he needs to hear you tell him that you like having him in the family. Children remember positive statements we say to them. They store them up and “replay” these statements to themselves. Practice giving your child words of encouragement throughout each day.

Be generous with praise.

Use what is called descriptive praise to let your child know when they are doing something well. You must of course become in the habit of looking for situations in which your child is doing a good job or displaying a talent. When your child completes a task or chore you could say, “I really like the way you straightened your room. You found a place for every thing and put each thing in its place.”

When you observe them showing a talent you might say, “That last piece you played was great. You really have a lot of musical talent.” Don’t be afraid to give praise often even in front of
family or friends. Also, use praise to point out positive character traits. For instance, “You are a very kind person.” Or, “I like the way you stick with things you do even when it seems hard to do.” You can even praise a child for something he did not do such as “I really liked how you accepted my answer of ‘no’ and didn’t lose your temper.”

Teach your child to practice making positive self-statements.

Self-talk is very important in everything we do. Psychologists have found that negative self-talk is behind depression and anxiety. What we think determines how we feel and how we feel determines how we behave. Therefore, it is important to teach children to be positive about how they “talk to themselves.” Some examples of useful self-talk are: “I can get this problem, if I just keep trying.” “It’s OK if our team lost today. We all tried our best and you can’t win them all.” “It makes me feel good to help others even if the person doesn’t notice or thank me.
Please look for part II of…
“How We Will Help Your Child Succeed in our Program (and in Life) By Developing His/Her Self-Esteem”
in a future email. Take the next step and set up an appointment for free trial program program for your child. You have nothing to lose and very much to gain!

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Shihan Michael Pace
Pace Institute of Karate